Being part of the society in which we are existing, the expression/thought of modesty and righteousness may appear to be outmoded. Today’s woman, though modern, cultured and unshackled, is more oppressed than any woman in the most culturally oppressive village in Afghanistan. The oppression does not mean an inability to choose one’s clothing, one’s life style or one’s friends. The oppression is our inability to see the ingresses being made in the peace and tranquillity of a chaste society and unearth the real face of the crumbling society. The oppression is an idea that a woman’s beauty is public and that beauty admiration is equal to respect.
& & & & & & If one can step out of this society/circle in which he/she lives one may be able to see the reality, which, being part of the society/circle, one cannot see. One cannot analyse that the highest paid woman are those who expose themselves to the public display, like actresses, models and even strip-tease dancers. If some how it becomes possible to detach oneself from the society/circle for some time, one will be able to see that the relationship between men and women is unfairly stacked in the men’s direction. A woman dresses to attract man and lives in a false state of living according to her own wishes, or living the way she feels like. It is a painful reality, even if one does not believe in it, that the woman feels pleased when she is admired by a man, and a man admires a woman who exposes herself to him, in keeping with his impious needs. It is not liberty, it can, however, be termed as exploitation of women by men, the exploitation taken by women as approbation. There is no way for a person to know that he is dirty if he has never been clean, similarly the oppressed person will never know about oppression till he/ she comes out of the darkness of that oppression. It is not oppression to protect yourself and society; instead oppression is to voluntarily throw yourself into the quagmire while denying it is dirty. A woman should be judged by society for her mind, soul and heart instead of loveliness and hype. A woman can make people respect herself by her self-respecting attitude, by refusing to become a source of hilarity and pleasure for the lewd men. A thinking mind, an insightful heart and an untainted soul should be able to analyse the events and adopt a suitable life style rather than following what is happening in the society or what is in vogue. The (metaphorically) ignorant, deaf, dumb, blind and void of wisdom, insist on doing what their forefathers had been doing “even though their fathers were void of wisdom and guidance”1. Ask the prettiness and loveliness saga from the women who have crossed the age of being stunning, pretty or appealing, a woman who has crossed the age of having an attractive body, irrespective of beauty of her character and spirit.&
& & & & & & A woman should be able to carry out an in-depth analysis of the dress, outfit and interaction with the men, in vogue in the society and assess the genesis of the attire, costume and relation with men. She may discover certain sneaky facts, which were, perhaps, not known to her. Why a woman is lured to put on dresses wherein she is exposed to the men? The modern women may deny the fact and claim these dresses as their own choice out of their own free will etc. but the truth remains unchanged, that, it is only to quench the immodest desires of the male. Man has duped woman by ensnaring them in a magnificence/approbation syndrome. Has, ever, a man praised a good heart a clean soul and a chaste character of a woman; conversely, beauty of a woman is admired because it suits the lecherous desires of a man. Its time for us, the members of society, to take an account of our deeds and re-establish the forgotten principles concerning the good and the bad and adopt a way of life which will take us out of the quagmire in which the society is sinking at the moment.&
& & & & & & The virtuous women are advised to “lower their gaze, guard their modesty and they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear thereof. They should cover themselves well (with care), cast their outer garments over their persons (when outside): that is most convenient that they should be known as such and not molested. They should not be seen (without a careful covering of themselves) except to their husbands their fathers their husbands` fathers their sons their husbands` sons their brothers or their brothers` sons or their sisters` sons or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. They should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments”2. “Such elderly women who have passed the prospect of marriage there is no blame on them if they lay aside their (outer) garments provided they make not a wanton display of their beauty: but it is best for them to be modest”3.& Such women will attain bliss. “Impure women are for impure men and impure men are for impure women; and women of purity are for men of purity and men of purity are for women of purity”4. The most reverential women are the ones “who believe in God, devout, true, patient, constant, humble, who give charity, who fast (and deny themselves),& who guard their chastity and who engage much in God`s praise for them has God& prepared forgiveness and great reward”5. A reward much valuable than few dollars.